Mental Monday – Mom guilt

If you are a mom you know what I am talking about when I say mom guilt. It is the overwhelming feeling of guilt that you are feeling when you think you are not doing enough for your kids.

This is something that starts when you first find out you’re pregnant. Are you eating the right foods? Are you doing resting enough so you doing injury the baby? Are you getting enough exercise?

And then you have your baby. If it is your first or even your last you never feel like you know exactly what you’re doing. Do you breastfeed or do you bottle feed? What if you can’t produce enough milk to supply your baby? When is the right time to soothe your crying baby? When do you let them cry it out? Do you let them cry it out? What do all their cries mean? When do you start feeding them real food? When should you worry about their milestones? What age should they be sitting up, crawling, walking, talking? Do you try and be a stay at home mom or work full time and pay daycare? Which daycare is best? In-home daycare or a daycare center? How can you ever trust anyone with your child?

Then they go to school. Do I send them to school? What about homeschooling? What about bullies? What if my kid is a bully? First sleepover? How can I trust other people with my kid? Am I spending enough time with them? What if I don’t ask the right questions, are they going to speak up and tell me what is wrong? Am I bugging them too much?  Will they go to college? How are they going to pay for college? Are they going to get good grades and get a scholarship?

Then they grow up. Did I raise them right? What will they be like as parents? Will I be a good grandparent? Will them come to me for advice when they need it? Will they still be living at home? Will they have a good job?

These and more are the questions that go through a mom’s brain all day, every day. You never feel like enough is enough. You don’t take time for yourself. You feel like you have to be there for your kid all the time.

But, they say, you can’t pour from an empty cup. Self-care is so important. Your kids need you to be happy and fulfilled. They need you to take breaks and do something for yourself. If you are constantly giving to everyone else you are going to run out of things to give.

So, take time for yourself. Go for a walk, take a bath, sit in your car for 5 minutes before you walk in the door after work. Heck, go hide in your closet and eat a candy bar!

I challenge you. Do one thing for yourself today. Doesn’t matter if it is for 5 minutes or 50 minutes. Let me know what you did!